Is It Time For A Cut? (Not your hair, and not your budget)

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Imagine that you find yourself with a shortage of funds, not sure how you’re going to meet all your expenses. Your first thought might be, “How can I bring in more money?” In this scenario however, there’s another equally helpful option. Ask yourself this question: “How can I reduce my expenses?”

That seems so logical when we’re talking about finances, but what about your schedule? Do you typically over-schedule yourself? Is your daily mantra, “There’s never enough time in the day?” If so, why not ask yourself a similar question: “How can I reduce my commitments?”

The facts are simple: Everyone has 24 hours a day; there’s nothing any of us can do to get more time. However, the choice is yours as to how you use the time. You can waste time or use it wisely. If you find yourself not having enough time, maybe it’s time to cut some commitments from your calendar.

Keep in mind that this will involve saying no, which can be challenging for many women. When you say yes to one thing you’re inevitably saying no to something else; maybe something ultimately more important to you – like your health and happiness. As you review your schedule, you may see that your tendency to keep peace with others has produced a lack of peace with yourself.  Unfortunately, if you make that a habit it’ll cause resistance to living wholeheartedly.

If you’re truly overscheduled, the remedy is literally on the tip of your tongue: Just say no. Cut out some commitments so you find time for yourself.

Knowing what’s important to you and aligning your commitments with these priorities, results in a deep peace, confidence and joy. Who wouldn’t want that?

-Here’s to happy cutting!

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What Are You Not Seeing?

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When you take a close look at yourself, what do you see?  When looking in a mirror, what do you say to yourself?

The truth is that every woman has a unique beauty of her own.  I imagine you acknowledge and appreciate the beauty in your friends, but do you believe you’re beautiful?  If your answer is “no,” I invite you to take a closer look.

When looking in the mirror, most women see something negative.  They see themselves as not good enough:  Too tall, too short, too thick, too thin, too shapely, not shapely enough -and the list goes on.  Their self talk is also negative; they say things they wouldn’t dream of saying to any one else.

Apparently we’ve grown accustomed to bashing ourselves.  We focus on our perceived faults and keep track of all the ways we don’t “measure up.”  We fail to remember that the airbrushed, photoshopped magazine covers, are nothing more than an artistic illusion.  Therefore, we make comparisons and determine we’re not good enough.

So what’s the answer?  Are we doomed to a lifetime of feeling “not pretty enough” or “not valuable enough?”  Absolutely not!

When trying to make changes, people are motivated more by praise than criticism. The same applies to ourselves.  So instead of finding fault with your reflection, start affirming what you see.  Be kind, complimentary and encouraging –just like you are to your good friends.  Start discarding negative thoughts about yourself.  Replace them with ones that help you to recognize and embrace your beauty.

As you declutter your thoughts, you’ll discover the truth:  You, are beautiful!