What Are You Not Seeing?

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When you take a close look at yourself, what do you see?  When looking in a mirror, what do you say to yourself?

The truth is that every woman has a unique beauty of her own.  I imagine you acknowledge and appreciate the beauty in your friends, but do you believe you’re beautiful?  If your answer is “no,” I invite you to take a closer look.

When looking in the mirror, most women see something negative.  They see themselves as not good enough:  Too tall, too short, too thick, too thin, too shapely, not shapely enough -and the list goes on.  Their self talk is also negative; they say things they wouldn’t dream of saying to any one else.

Apparently we’ve grown accustomed to bashing ourselves.  We focus on our perceived faults and keep track of all the ways we don’t “measure up.”  We fail to remember that the airbrushed, photoshopped magazine covers, are nothing more than an artistic illusion.  Therefore, we make comparisons and determine we’re not good enough.

So what’s the answer?  Are we doomed to a lifetime of feeling “not pretty enough” or “not valuable enough?”  Absolutely not!

When trying to make changes, people are motivated more by praise than criticism. The same applies to ourselves.  So instead of finding fault with your reflection, start affirming what you see.  Be kind, complimentary and encouraging –just like you are to your good friends.  Start discarding negative thoughts about yourself.  Replace them with ones that help you to recognize and embrace your beauty.

As you declutter your thoughts, you’ll discover the truth:  You, are beautiful!


Have You “Got No Time?”


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Recently, as I was driving home from a speaking engagement I turned on the radio to help pass the time.  I soon found myself singing along to an “oldie.”  The song was, “No Time,” by the Guess Who.  If you’re not familiar with it, the lyrics say:

(No time left for you) On my way to better things

(No time left for you) I found myself some wings

                                                              (No time left for you) Distant roads are callin’ me…

I realized that those words provided a great message, but do you know who needs to be hearing it?  Guess who?  Your inner critic!  That’s who!  You know -that voice inside your head that so often knocks you down and hurls condemnation at you.

The truth is that you DO have time.  No matter who you are, you have 24 hours a day, everyday.  The most critical choice you make is what you do with those 24 hours.  Your daily choices (of how you spend or invest your time) actually start with your thoughts.  If you choose thoughts that are critical and demeaning, you will find you “Got No Time” for the things that really matter.  The damage done by your critic will leave you exhausted.

If, on the other hand, you choose thoughts that are positive and encouraging, you will find time for the things that bring you fulfillment.  When you invest the time to become your own fan, you’ll HAVE TIME  (and energy) to do what you’re created to do.

Only as you quiet the critic (since you’re “on your way to better things”) can you learn to live wholeheartedly.  Today, right now, start telling your critic “Got No Time for YOU!”